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What to do when you feel you are at a crossroads in your life

Have you ever had the feeling of being stuck in your life, or having reached a crossroads and had to take some major (life/work) decisions?

For me the last big turning point was around my 30th birthday. After high school, studies, living abroad, getting married and first years of work experience in my 20s, I realized more and more that I had outgrown my current life and I was longing for change.

Through a process of self-discovery in coaching, I started to work out what was important to me. What my values are and where they were not present in my life. With this clarity, I regained confidence and trust in myself. I was able to overcome my biggest fears and start a new chapter.

" I feel aligned with who I want to be, how I want to live and the impact I want to have in this world."

What do you do when you are at a major crossroads in your life?

Life is full of turning points–times.

The following 7 steps might help you:

1. Reconnect with yourself and your inner core. Spend time alone. Find a place/location that gives you peace of mind to reconnect with yourself and turn down all the noise from outside.

2. Visualize yourself at the end of your life. This may sound melodramatic. Can be painful or the biggest eye opener. It helps you to look at the bigger picture. What is really important to you? Which footprint do you want to leave?

3. Invest in yourself. Learn about yourself, your values and what makes you fully alive and excited.

4. Connect with people who go for what they want. Talk to people about your ideas. You will meet people and new doors will open.

5. Don’t follow the conventional or “common sense” path just because everyone else does. Stop comparing yourself to your friends, colleagues or social media. You are never fully in someone’s shoes. All choices come with a price. Which price are you willing to pay?

6. You cannot think everything through. If you take a decision once it doesn’t mean you will always be doomed to follow this road forever. We are constantly evolving, and so are our decisions.

7. Don’t reminisce on your past or who you have been. Make a conscious decision who you are now and who you want to become. Then act upon it.

“Life lessons are not journeys traveled in straight lines but are crossroads formed years and miles apart.” Gina Greenlee

Especially, in this time it is helpful to have someone walking beside you, helping you remember what is important to you and how to take steps into the right direction.

If you feel like, you want to reach out and have a chat, you are more than welcome to book a complimentary chemistry call with me.


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